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A lack of confidence is a heavy burden. People who don’t believe in themselves have a hard time speaking up in class, telling a joke with a lot of others around, approaching a person they don’t know or, needless to say, speaking in front of people. Few situations put your confidence to a test like public speaking does.
The moment you stand up, you know you are being evaluated. You know that all eyes and ears are on you and if you mess it up, people might think badly of you. But here’s the other side of the coin: if it goes well, you will have an incredible sense of accomplishment.
It’s so rewarding exactly because it’s so difficult. When you receive a beautiful applause after a big presentation or speech, you will think “wow, I did this.” You’ll remember how scared you were, but that you did it nonetheless and this success will remain like a trophy in your memory. And after you’ve done that, whenever there is a new challenge – whether it’s an exam, standing up against something you don’t like or maybe even asking someone out, you can always look at that imaginary trophy as a motivation. If you managed to give that big speech, sure you can do this as well.
Confidence is not found, it’s built. And it’s not built in a day. It takes a lot of little victories and little “trophies” – and also some losses along the way. You don’t have to be a speaker, but after you manage to handle that pressure of public speaking and become better at expressing yourself, many other things won’t be that big of a deal.
Are you in Zagreb? Drop by my event on the 6th of May in Kino Forum SD Stjepan Radić!